New Year resolutions seem so old-fashioned nowadays as many people don’t bother to set them because in their minds they already feel that they will not achieve them.
Even if we don’t name them “resolutions” it is important to have goals. Human beings are very much task and goal orientated and we are setting goals unconsciously every single day. What time we have to be at work, cleaning the house for visitors, buying birthday cards etc. Research has shown that having goals and working towards them increases success, happiness and health. If we don’t set goals for ourselves that maybe other people are doing it for us and we can drift along without feeling in charge of our own lives.
Goals can be big such as learning to drive or can be small like planting Spring bulbs. It doesn’t matter what your goal is, as long as it is important to you. 90% of the goal is knowing why it is important to you and how it will benefit your life, 10% is how you go about achieving it.
Throughout our lives we have all succeeded at things so we know it can be done. We need to be aware of our motivation strategy and make it work to our advantage. Are you a person that sets a goal and can work towards, it visualising what the end result is? This is TOWARDS motivation.
Are you someone that waits until things become so uncomfortable before you take action? This is AWAY motivation. Neither is better than the other, it is for you to use the strategy that works best for you. If you are an away motivator perhaps increase the discomfort or focus on what you are putting up with or losing out on to kick start your motivation.
There are loads of suggested ways that help with achieving goals but here are a few that I still use:-
· Write the goals down and place them where you can see them everyday
· Write down why that goal is important, how it will affect your life, health, relationships, career etc
· Share that goals with someone you trust who will be supportive – don’t keep it to yourself. Ask them to check in with you every week to see how you are doing
· If the goal feels overwhelming break it down into small manageable chunks and focus on each step at a time
· Reward yourself for each step you take towards your goal. Rewards can be treats such as a manicure, coffee out with a friend, time to read a magazine – make it meaningful for you
· Every time you come up against a “block or obstacle” remind yourself why you are doing this and how important it is to you
If you still feel daunted by your goal and don’t know where to start seek help from others. What you could achieve with support, guidance and encouragement could be priceless.
Currently I am offering two coaching packages to help people kick off their New Year with motivation and determination. This can be online with weekly support and exercises or face to face sessions that will keep you on track. Further details can be found here or on my website
I have set my goals for the year ahead- some small, some much bigger and slightly daunting ranging from going to New Zealand to see the British Lions to establishing a Reiki practice! However, they are all important to me in so many aspects of my life that I would be foolish just to do nothing and hope that things happen. I am not trusting to chance!
Good luck with yours and if you want to share them I would be delighted to hear from you.